You are responsible for everything in your life

Everything that is happening in our lives is our responsibility. Good and bad. All our actions, success, failures. If something goes wrong we can blame politics, or partners, family, parents, producers of those sweet candies what added a few more pounds to your body. But the truth is this is just your responsibility. You can say what is not always true. Let’s say someone said or did something bad to you. Why is it your responsibility? Why should you take it on you? You shouldn’t. Responsibility is your true freedom to act. You are not responsible for other actions, but you are responsible for how to act, how to respond. You can yell in the return, you can make something similarly bad, but you can smile, you can respond politely, you can stop it. You have the freedom to act. But if you are not responsible, you have no freedom. You just float down the river as a dead man.

If you are overweight you can blame those grocery stores which sell all those sweets what you bought recently. You can blame your genetics, your parents, who taught you to eat too much. You can even blame yourself for not having the willpower to do exercises and eat healthy food. Or you can take responsibility and do something. Or even not to do, if you are ok with it. It’s your truly free choice. You have it.

It’s not always easy to do. If you are tired, hungry, broken, it’s much easier to blame someone and get relief. Yes, it is. But it’s a dead end. If you are not responsible for your acts, you are not responsible for your life, which means someone else will control your life. Do you want it?

But the good news is you can train it, you can take some responsibility bit by bit. Step by step. Can’t resist those sweet cookies? Don’t buy them next time. Or eat a few and throw away the rest. Act when you are full, not when you too hungry.

Say and do something good to your partner when you are in a good mood. And when you think he or she is your enemy, try do not fight with him, do not bad words what you will regret later. Breath in and breath out. Just try it.

It’s your life, it’s your path. Bit by bit. Step by step.